When you fear your spouse more than you love him, something needs to change. You may need to file for divorce. But in cases of domestic abuse, this is rarely an easy step.

Divorce is never easy, but domestic abuse can make it even harder. If you’re thinking about ending an abusive marriage, you want to understand how your divorce may differ from others. You will also want to know how to find help.

Abuse does not lead to an even marriage

First, it’s worth noting that your spouse doesn’t need to hit you or threaten you with serious injury to be guilty of domestic abuse. Neither does he need to be convicted for the abuse to factor into your divorce. Michigan’s police and courts understand that domestic abuse can take many different forms, including:

The result is that abusive marriages are not balanced between the partners. Abusers use violence and manipulation to gain power and control over their partners. Michigan law doesn’t consider this in the grounds for divorce. Michigan only views divorce as an irreconcilable “breakdown of the marriage.” But the abuse may affect decisions regarding child custody, property division and more.

Getting help

Because your marriage suffers from an uneven power balance, you will want to consider some steps other divorces might not. The Domestic Violence Survivor’s Handbook addresses some of these steps, including:

The courts understand you deserve to be safe. They can help you avoid face-to-face contact and other situations that might make you feel unsafe. Your attorney can help you understand your options, and you may want to work with a Michigan attorney who has experience helping survivors of domestic abuse.

Enjoy a better tomorrow

You don’t need to live with violence, threats or emotional abuse. These aren’t the hallmarks of a healthy marriage. They’re forms of torture. You don’t need to be a victim. You can get free. The right counsel can help you stand up and start down the path to a brighter future.